apply for a new driver’s license - check!
the last time i checked, it is 2014, and the dmv is still a place that induces fear in adults everywhere.
i liken it to jury duty (also scary for adults). or to the dentist (for many kids, and some adults).
after some preliminary research, i found out that the dmv actually has a fancy new appointment-setting feature online! of course i took advantage of it and set it for 10:30 am on a wednesday with my boss’ blessing.
long story short: of course the day i go to the dmv their ‘ticket system is down’ — aka the system that tells you what order you’re in and what window to go to for assistance and it actually doesn’t matter that i made an appointment. after 20 minutes of the people in charge slowly (painfully) figuring out what this meant for them and their lives and one poor befuddled security guard telling a Real Housewife of Manhattan that he’s sorry he can’t tell her if she’ll make her hair appointment in the afternoon (eye roll at lady, sympathy for security guard), they finally started asking people to get in line for different services at different windows. (dear captain obvious, i could have told you how to do this in minutes but you are the hand that feeds so i did not bite.)
i fell under the “need a new license + a photo” category. as soon as they announced it, i was in hunger games mode, elbows out, ready to be one of the first in the line. put a braid in my hair and call me katniss because it worked, i was near the front. the girls in front of me both didn’t have their forms filled out so they were sent to the back of the line. this worked in my favor — i actually was out of there in less than 30 minutes from lining up, so an hour-ish overall! having low expectations sometimes helps in life.
overall, as nightmarish as the dmv still was, i didn’t experience true sorrow there. i was worried after hearing from friends that they would give me a hard time about changing my maiden name to my middle name, but it wasn’t even questioned. perhaps bc i had my new social security card with me that clearly said my new name? who knows?
next up: passport. argh.
meanwhile, kyle is still sitting pretty with the name he’s had for 27 years. no need for a diary for him. jerk. (jk - love you).
apply for a new social security card - check!
surprisingly smooth and easy. manhattan’s social security card office has their logistics in order! wow government agency, way to be efficient. it took me less than 15 minutes from entering the building to leaving with my receipt indicating my new multi-syllabic surname. and i still got to work early.
the hubby was so sweet & made me a scrumptious to-go breakfast sammy to eat en route as i left at 6:40 am-ish (the SS office opens at 7 am! huzzah!). you know what they say about the early bird, etc. i’m pretty sure he was half asleep when making it so i am extra grateful.
next steps: wait for new social security card in mail, head to DMV. i have a feeling this might be the painful one. we shall see…
some quick wedding memories/highlights i want to jot down from behind-the-scenes before i forget them:
- being tackled by liz at 8 in the morning to her shouting “you’re getting MARRIED!!” and then watching her immediately burst into tears. god i love her.
- learning that mer is an incredible hanson impersonator. her rendition of MMMbop is MMMazing.
- bugs loving and swarming my dress at spohr gardens for photos and not caring at all.
- riding a limo for the first time in my life with all of my sisters i’ve collected through the years: my two Pak siblings, the two via in-laws, old (huli, ashmo) and newish (mer).
- 'first look' w/ kyle. no words.
- figuring out how to use a toilet wearing The Dress and having alina and ashmo in the stall coaching me through the process. btw, i will save this rant for later but i’m pretty sure there’s something symbolic about the bride’s dress & how it makes a woman quite incompetent to do most things by herself, from putting on the dress, to putting on shoes, to walking, to peeing, etc.
- seeing aunts and uncles and cousins i haven’t seen in 10+ years, and introducing them to kyle for the first time, whose family i’ve known for almost that long now.
i don’t think i’ve ever felt so much love and happiness in one day before. i get why people say it’s The Best Day of Your Life. it isn’t meant to be pressure — it just actually is The Best Day ever, and it was over in a blink. i’m so glad we hired a videographer so i can re-live the ceremony, which erika officiated perfectly, hear kyle’s vows again, see how i actually delivered my vows, and re-live the toasts (one of my favorite parts of the evening).
my cheeks hurt in the best of ways from smiling and laughing so much.